Kisah kelahiran baby Irfan

23 Januari 2015 (Jumaat)
39 weeks antenatal check up dgn Dr Shida. Result scan hari ni agak mendebarkan. Doc kata air ketuban ku makin berkurang, below normal level (reading dlm 7.9, normal above 8). Doc suggest utk induce next Monday (26 Jan) rather than waiting for another 1 week before EDD ku (1 Feb). Aduh sedihnya rasa masa dgr doc ckp tuh, sbb takut kalau bukaan serviks tak ready ada high chance utk emergency csect due to baby distress. Sesungguhnya mmg aku tak sanggup kena csect lagi..cukuplah rasa time Idlan dulu. So doc kasi MC utk hari itu (walaupun plan asalnya aku igt nak mintak MC start next Wednesday sbb nak setelkan kontrak ATK dan paper JPP dan handover keja2 lain, lagipon staff ku tgh bercuti umrah, rasa tak proper nak tinggalkan ofis). Lepas check up tu terus ku wassap bos, umi, yati dan geng lunch ku. Sambil wassap ngan umi sambil mengalir air mata (ofcoz cover2 dari Pruzz dan Ammar hehe) sbb mmg rasa sedih yg amat. Anyway doc ada check bukaan baru 1cm, dia ckp lepas ni akan keluar spotting sket2 so jangan panik. Awak doalah sakit natural datang sendiri, so that kita tak payah induce. Doc jugak pesan utk slalu monitor fetus movement. Malam tu serius ku tak boleh lena..memacam fikir dlm otak nih....aduhai hati tenanglah dikau! Buat pertama kali jugak aku buat fetal kick counts...yela doc dah pesan...so aku mmg kena alert kalo ada anything abnormal yg dikesan. Mmg mlm tu duk la google pasal air ketuban kurang (dlm medical term dipanggil 'oligohydramnios' = is a condition in pregnancy characterized by a deficiency of amniotic fluid). Makin byk yg dibaca, makin risau jadiknya! Baca dekat babycenter, byk kes emergency csect utk kes induced disebabkan kurang air ketuban due to baby distress.

24 Jan (Sabtu)
Hampir seharian berjalan ke Mid Valley. Konon salah satu exercise utk cepatkan bukaan dan kasik sakit natural datang. Tapi nothing happened..penat dan lenguh kaki toksah ckpla kan! hehe.

25 Jan (Ahad)
Pagi lepas breakfast roti canai bukit, the whole clan pegi NSK beli groceries dan lauk2 utk pantang. Aku beli 2 ekor ayam, ikan tenggiri, jenahak dan kerisi. Cukupla utk stok 2 minggu kots. Balik NSK, siang2 lauk bagai...then masak kari ayam khas utk Ammar sbb dia dari kelmarin duk request nk mkn kari. Dalam jam 1.30pm, aku dah ready utk lunch dan suap Ammar, tetiba rasa macam ada air mengalir keluar. Aduhh air ketuban ke nih?? Check dlm toilet, tgk jernih je air tuh...sah kot air ketuban! Sempat google kejap description pasal air ketuban, then wassap geng lunch mintak pendpt depa, Aida rekomen terus gi hospital. Call Columbia, derang suruh terus pegi emergency. Ok hati mmg sgt berdebar, tapi sempat la mkn dulu and teruskan suap Ammar. Suruh kekanak dan hubby lunch cepat2. Kari yg sedap pon rasa mcm tak sedap bole? mcm tak tertelan rasa hehe

Dalam  pukul 2 lebih, kami terus pegi ke bhgn emergency. Aku ditolak ke labor room, nurse check air yg keluar tuh (anyway mmg aku rasa air duk keluar sket2) dan buat CTG. Fetus heartbeat ok...contraction not detected at all. Nurse update kat doc, doc advise utk admit masuk ward mlm tuh utk terus monitor CTG. To cut it short, aku bermlm di wad tanpa hubby dan kekanak sbb bilik single full, dpt bilik twin sharing jer sob sob. Nurse duk monitor CTG mlm tuh, dan slalu pesan utk alert derang kalo ada sakit contraction, atau cepat2 ifm jika air ketuban bertukar color yellowish/green. Isk mmg tak lena tdo mlm tuh, sbb risau takut air ketuban bertukar color. Pruzz kat rumah pon tak lena. Anyway kekanak dah selamat dieksport ke Ampang rumah nek umi mlm tu jugak, in case kalau aku sakit nak bersalin mlm tu hehe.

okla sambung nx entri la plak ek..pjg dah ni :p

Women and childbirth

2014 is almost coming to the end. We were tested with massive floods hitting the Pantai Timur and few other states, as well as the recent loss of AA’s plane from Surabaya to Singapore. I no longer have close family members back in Kelantan since the passing of my late grandmother, but seeing my close friends and other people whose family members, their houses and other belongings were badly affected by the flood, it was really heart wrenching. May Allah replaces their losses with something much better, may this trial serves as a lesson to each and everyone of us to reflect ourselves, improves our relationship with Allah and strive to fulfil our dues and be a better servant in every way.

Me and hubby were also shocked to hear the news of his close friend’s wife passing away after giving birth to her 6th child in UK on last Sunday. I hardly know arwah Maria and only met her once during an open house gathering. It definitely will not be easy for the husband, who is a PHD candidate to cope with the loss, what more to raise all their 6 smalls kids ages 9 and under, alone far from his home country. May Allah grants him with enough strength, patience and will to move on with his lives and resume his duties as a father, mother, student and of course hamba kpdNya. For the past 2 days, I’ve been googling on the net about arwah Maria, who is a freelance Muslimah writer and has published lots of articles for SISTERS Magazine (UK), Discovery Magazine (UK) and many more, an advocate for home schooling and natural childbirth. I came across this one nice article by her, titled “Childbirth: Is It God’s Punishment Upon Women?” which you may read via link below.

http://www.onislam.net/english/family/moms-and-dads/480669-childbirth-is-it-gods-punishment-upon-women.html?Dads=

Every childbirth experienced by women is unique and different on its own. There is no way you can expect to experience similar process of childbirth for each of your child. Embrace the journey as much as you can, and leave everything to Allah from the beginning until the end of process. I did not take any pain relievers during my labour process (except during Idlan’s time who was born via c-sect because of breech) just because I wanted to experience and feel the labour pain, just like what my mom had experienced when she gave birth to me and my two other brothers. Some would ask, don’t you fear the pain, is it bearable, how do you cope with it, etc. My answers will always be…Insya Allah, serah je pada Allah, sebab dlm keadaan yg sgt lemah dan sakit tu, mmg tiada siapa pun yg boleh tolong selain Allah. Hubby tolong2 massage pon mmg tak jalan punyerlah hihi (tq Sayang for being there with me, your presence was indeed much needed during those critical hours!)

Talking about fear, some women is so traumatized after a tough childbirth experience. That is why a strong support from husband, family members, friends and surrounding is equally important. So that the mother can continue with her life post the labour process, and enjoy the motherhood experience as what it should be. The level and type of fear that each of us can embrace is also different. For example, I am willing to go through a labor without medication rather than riding a roller coaster! Or probably go for a bungee jumping at Kawarau River as compared to taking a roller coaster. The analogy given may not be identical, but it nevertheless tells us that every person is unique and different on its own. Do not force yourself over the limit or boundary you’ve set, you don’t have to prove to people that you can do everything. In fact none of us is perfect, that’s the fitrah that Allah has determined upon us.

p/s: tomorrow check up 36 weeks, another 3-4 weeks to full term...hurmm sbb tu tulis entry psl childbirth :)

Susu Kambing during pregnancy?

Ada yg kata minum susu kambing masa pregnant boleh elak baby kena jaundice. Disebabkan ketiga2 baby ku sebelum ni mmg kena jaundice, kali ni nekad utk try minum susu kambing n see the result :)

Start minum masa preggie 7mths++..beli brand keluaran Bertam Best Marketing ni masa pegi MAHA aritu. Mula2 beli 2 pack je..perisa original (katanya tiada gula) & strawberry..both sedap minum sejuk! yg stroberi tu mmg sedap ala2 susu kotak dutch lady tu tau.

Now dh order lagi 3 pack..minta dia deliver ke ofis. Kat pack tu dia tulis rm35 for 500g...tapi masa Maha aritu dia kasi rm50 for 2 packs...so kali ni saya nego minta harga yg sama :)

Sape suka susu kambing bole try brand ni..mmg sedap, lemak berkrim n tak berbau.

Disney baby playpen

Ni mengada namanya. Baby cot si abang yg berwarna putih still elok lagi sebenarnya. Tapi sbb simpan bwh katil, berat nk bwk turun ke bilik bawah dan malas nk assemble, timbul lah idea beli playpen nih.

Comel kan color dia? price display tu inclusive of buggy. So bertambahla lagi koleksi stroller/buggy kami. Now dah ada color merah, purple, oren, biru hijau dan kuning. Hubby ckp simpan dulu buggy ni...kira ni buggy utk ke nz nnt hiksss

At 27 weeks...

Alhamdulillah my gravida 5 is going on smoothly as time passes by. No major sickness happened of late, except for occasional back pain after running the usual errands like going for a grocery shopping, ironing, cooking, etc. Thanks to the men of the house, each one of them at least plays a major role to help their mommy in sorting out the routines. Hubby is responsible for laundry while Idlan n Firas will assist to pick up the clothes from ampaian and sort out the hangers, before their mommy takes over the next task i.e. folding the clothes n arrange them in drawers. I still cook while time permits, at least will try to make sure I don’t miss preparing breakfast on weekdays.

Ohh most of the people I’ve bumped into had actually commented on my small tummy. Some said I am good at hiding my tummy, some even surprised when they happen to know that I am actually at 6 mths++ terms now. So far I’ve gained about 3.6kg from my pre-pregnancy weight, very much lesser as compared to the previous gravida. Tried my best not to gain so much because of the back pain, well heavier body could mean more tendency for the pain to become severe isn’t it?

On a separate note, Idlan has finished his final exam at sek keb, now is enjoying his free time participating in liga lipat (football). We learnt that he is positioned as a striker, and today he entered the semi-final game. Today is also his second last day for final exam in Kafa, tomorrow dah enjoy! Firas is busy practising for kids parade match in conjunction with Hari Tadika Selangor to be held in SACC this coming Sunday. Ammar, being a happy lil ‘baby’ as usual now seems to occupying himself doing lots of imaginary play with his robots, cars, lego. He talks with them, doing role-play, etc and doesn't really hook up with ipad anymore. Hubby has recently imposed a new rule to them, no ipad on weekdays. Hence why Ammar is more into his fantasy world while Firas is seen to be engaged in comics reading. Bagus jugak kan :)

of 21 weeks and counting!

I had my regular monthly check up at the clinic yesterday. Adik baby's growing well, so does his mama! I gained nearly 3kg within a month, lucky the gynae said that should not be alarming and I don’t require a sugar test yet, unless if the weighing scale continuously shows a 3kg increment every month! hikss

And oh yes, this is the prenatal check up that I was most looking forward for merely one reason. To know the baby’s gender! If u notice, I mentioned ‘his mama’ in the first para. So that’s the answer, we are expecting another boboiboy in the house!! haha

I am all ok when the gynae confidently uttered…nampak bebird la mama. Well I guess a mother’s instinct never goes wrong, and so did myself this time around. I don’t feel anything unusual or weird with this gravida 5, hence I’ve been putting and keep reassuring myself not to expect a baby girl, and yesterday I was correct. A boy or girl, it is still a precious gift and creation from Allah to us. I whatsapped hubby and he replied…kena train sorang jadik chef laa :p

Yesterday’s evening when I broke the news to the kids, Alhamdulillah they took it quite well especially Idlan since I knew from the beginning he had always wanted a baby girl. He said…takperlah boy pon mesti comel jugak mcm adik xxx (kawan dia). hihi syukur!

So now, a boy’s name hunting process shall begin! :)

Idlan Farhan

Amir Firas

Ammar Fitri

xxxxx 

and that means mama remains as the minority in the house....huhu

Gravida 5, Para 3 (+1)

....as written on the front page of my yellow-colored prenatal book.

I didn’t survive my previous gravida 2, God knows well what’s best for its servant and we accepted it wholeheartedly without much questions. Then came my cheeky and handsome little Firas to add more colors to our lives, followed by baby Ammar, who still becomes my lil baby until today, well at least until his real ‘adik baby’ borns into this world.

So they are my 3 little boys who made us smiles and laugh during their sweet n angelic behavior, the same that made us scream and mad over their tantrums n whatnots. 

The current gravida 5 has its own challenge. Migraine, nausea, tiredness…these 3 becomes my best buddies ever since I figured out I am expecting another baby. I didn’t vomited, I have no problem eating any food, I have no problem to cook, but to my surprise I lose some kilos for the past 3 months. I got migraine attack (or at least headache) almost every day, which I tried my best to avoid taking paracetamol during this early stage, that makes the headache worsen and lasted for days. On certain days I surrendered and took the paracetamol, if not I don’t think I’ll be able to leave the bed, go to the office and continue my usual routines like other normal people. Oh I just don’t like this hormonal change in the body, and pray that this will not prolong until the 2^nd trimester.

Back in kampung during raya, it seems like most of hubby’s relatives already knew I am pregnant. When we went to a relative house in Sg Petani, hubby’s cousin even asked ‘so dah brape bulan nih?’ Obviously they didn’t see my tummy cause it is still flat (tak tipu tau hehe), but surprisingly the story of ‘Yati getting preggie again’ spread faster than I thought! Malunya!!

The pressure that I got this time is different. If during Ammar’s time I am ALL OK if it is a boy (again!), but this time it seems that everybody (well at least almost everyone that I bumped into) is hoping it is a GIRL. Especially my mom and mil…and Idlan…and Firas…well everyone! To be honest, I am redha and pasrah if it turns out to be a boy, but the thought of revealing the baby’s gender to umi, mak and the rest scares me a bit. Harapan menggunung dari mereka I tell you. But again Allah knows best, and me as the one that is carrying this tiny lil creature in my body only hope that he or she is healthy and complete, and that my pregnancy and later the journey towards labor is smooth without any complications. That’s what I’ve been hoping and praying in each of my du’a.

I have a friend who have 4 girls and now finally is expecting a boy for her fifth pregnancy. I have a colleague who has 4 straight boys and then only followed by two girls. I have a friend who has 3 boys and that’s it. So what’s the big deal if my fourth one turns out to be a boy (again)? me and hubby has decided that this will be our last one…and still both of us are OK if it is a BOY.

So lil baby, whether you are a boy or girl, mama and abah still loves you unconditionally. And because of that, pls grow healthily inside your mommy’s tummy ok!