From the first day we moved to the new house, idlan's getting more and more attached to me. I could hardly move around the house, with him clinging at my shirts/kain/pants, following me around here and there. To the toilet, upstairs, kitchen, to be exact every inch of the house is no more free. Even if i go to sink and wash my hands for less than a minute, he'll screamed as if i disappeared and vanished to somewhere where he cannot see me! He'll always sit or stand besides me; time goreng ayam, basuh pinggan, itu dan ini.....I pray and he'll sit or stand still on the prayer mat, wait till i finish, and of course with some interruption going on like touching or belek my kain semayang, intai bwh kain, etc. And now he started producing one kind of sound which we find it quite annoying and very mengada-ngada :(
Night time, i need to accompany him and pretend to sleep when he wants to sleep, which sometimes i ended up betul2 tersleep! Sometimes he sleeps on my hip, stomach, leg, whichever parts of the body that he likes until i got cramp but only able to move him bila dia betul2 dah tido. Recently at the hospital, he slept cuddling my body in a seating position and i can move nowhere.
I know some people says a son is closer to his mom and a daughter has higher tendency to cling more to her dad. This happens to my brother where his daughter is very attached to him and looking at his face with full admiration and obsession (tersgt klakar if u see this :p). But how i wish idlan would give 50-50 attention to the both of us equally, so that i have time for myself, to clean the kitchen, to iron clothes, or do anything with the house chores all alone with no outside disturbance. The dreadest part, when we go for outing, like yesterday to ikea, just imagine i have to carry him most of the time when he refused to walk (this is another problem to be tackle on immediately). I dont want to see Dr George, my orthopaedic again. I dont want to take any pain killer again.
Im not complaining, just hoping that the situation will change so that i got more time for myself. And saying this does not mean that idlan is not close to his father. Of course he's very close to my hubby, especially during part yg bergurau2 lasak/geletek, it's just that he has this kind of 'mother-son-attached-problem' which i dunno its common among other mothers out there or not.
So my dear bloggers out there, pls share your tips to solve the issue hehe thank you!
- i've scold him - no effect
- i've left him behind during our outing - he screamed and nangis olok2 of which ppl will start looking and staring at you and they might be saying, what a bad mother she is!
- have tried to ignore him while settling my chores - still does not solve the issue because he keeps on berbunyi-bunyi and nangis dan terasa sgtla annoying
Whatever it is, mama still loves you and it never becomes lesser as time passes by :p If nothing helps then i guess i must accept it as parts n parcels of motherhood life hehe